Ugandan singer Carol Nantongo has addressed rumours of domestic violence in her marriage to husband Dylan, saying their private relationship matters should be handled between them.
Speaking to journalists about the speculation surrounding their marriage, Carol described Dylan as her husband and stressed that what happens in their relationship is a private matter.
During the discussion, the singer made a controversial remark about physical violence, saying, “It’s not bad if he beats me.”
The comment came as she addressed the rumours surrounding their relationship. However, her remarks should not be taken as confirmation that Dylan has assaulted her, and the available account does not establish whether any physical abuse has occurred.
Carol also reflected on the unpredictable nature of love, challenging the widely shared advice that people should marry their best friends.
According to the singer, even relationships built on close friendship can change over time, making it difficult to predict how love will develop.
“I see people saying that marry your best friend, but even your best friend can turn into something else. Men change all the time, unlike us women, so there’s no science to love,” she said.
The singer revealed that she and Dylan have been together for nine years, a period she said has naturally come with disagreements and challenges.
Rather than presenting marriage as a relationship without conflict, Carol argued that misunderstandings are part of life between couples.
“There’s no marriage that doesn’t have issues, don’t accept to be deceived. We aren’t angels; all humans make mistakes,” she said.
She explained that she and her husband prefer to discuss their differences once they have calmed down, rather than allowing arguments to escalate into shouting matches.
“We don’t shout at each other; we talk when we have calmed down,” Carol added.
Her comments offer a glimpse into how she says the couple manages disagreements after nearly a decade together. At the same time, her remark about being beaten has drawn particular attention because it touches on a serious issue that should not be minimised or treated as a normal part of marriage.
Disagreements can occur in any relationship, but physical violence is different from ordinary marital conflict. A partner’s safety should not depend on keeping relationship problems private.
For now, Carol’s public comments focus on her perspective on marriage, the changes that can occur in relationships and the couple’s approach to resolving disagreements. The available account does not independently establish the allegations behind the rumours.